The Power Struggle
I’m a blogger. I use social media. It’s practically a requirement. A blogger without social media? People would scoff at the thought. After studying a media degree, I can really see the importance of it. To spread a message instantly, to see parts of the world we were blind to before, to communicate without a limit, to feel connected. My blog wouldn’t be where it is without social media and I wouldn’t know some of the people I do without it.
But, like anything remotely addictive, social media has the ability to be in complete control of a being. It can turn from a two-minute gaze to an unhealthy reliance. We can get completely immersed and caught up in social media. I can acknowledge that there are stages where I’m scrolling down Instagram frustrated that my life isn’t as picture perfect as someone else’s. Why can’t I look that effortlessly good in my outfit photos? How did she get her eyeliner so damn perfect? And it’s not even my own damaging thoughts regarding my appearance. Jet-setters; seeing a constant stream of aeroplane windows, beaches and bikinis. All nicely finished with a glossy filter. It’s scary how easy it can be to get caught up in it and how quickly it can happen without us noticing.
It’s times like this that social media can be my own worst enemy. It can leave me feeling unfulfilled, leaving me feeling not good enough… not pretty enough… not photogenic enough, the list is endless. I feel as if I’m forever comparing my Instagram theme, overall look and content with another blogger’s. Forever wondering if my tweets are boring and dull. Forever thinking that I should probably update my Insta-stories more because it seems everyone else does.
For me, it’s time to draw that line and remember my own self and my own content. Learning that I can support and admire someone else’s online world without needing to compare it to mine. I adore seeing travel photos and #OOTDS, I just don’t need to live within them. I can acknowledge that no matter how perfect it looks, a person’s life is so much more than a digital square.
There are moments in life that don’t need or require a double-tapped like. There are moments in life that can just be without having a re-tweet and as fun as Boomerang is, I don’t need to utilise it every second just to try and keep up with everyone else. Our social medias are the one thing we can truly control; we can control what people see and what people know and it doesn’t need to be absolute, you can be in love with every second of your life and not need to put a filter on every one of those seconds.
Our social medias are the one thing we can truly control; we can control what people see and what people know and it doesn’t need to be absolute, you can be in love with every second of your life and not need to put a filter on every one of those seconds. You can be sad and lonely and choose not to show it. It’s in your hands and whatever you choose it ok.
It’s just always important to remember that behind every Instagram and every Tweet, there is a ‘behind the scenes’, there’s a human who may also be comparing themselves too or maybe even struggling to find their place in this digital world.
I’ll be perfectly honest and admit I have no idea where I was going with this post and that it wasn’t planned and doesn’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. I don’t know this posts purpose, but if it means that even one person is reminded that there is life beyond digital pixels, then I’ve done alright. Social media is incredibly powerful, just don’t let it power over you. And hey, these outfit photos? I haven’t posted them… but you can guarantee that there is a bunch of non-flattering, ‘hair in my face’, ‘body parts in weird positions’ sitting in my trash. I promise.
I’d certainly love to read your thoughts on this too, so if you have any, please do leave them below!
Thank you for reading!