Getting Caught Up in Social Media

Caught Up In Social Media SimplyAbbi

The Power Struggle


I’m a blogger. I use social media. It’s practically a requirement. A blogger without social media? People would scoff at the thought. After studying a media degree, I can really see the importance of it. To spread a message instantly, to see parts of the world we were blind to before, to communicate without a limit, to feel connected. My blog wouldn’t be where it is without social media and I wouldn’t know some of the people I do without it.

But, like anything remotely addictive, social media has the ability to be in complete control of a being. It can turn from a two-minute gaze to an unhealthy reliance. We can get completely immersed and caught up in social media. I can acknowledge that there are stages where I’m scrolling down Instagram frustrated that my life isn’t as picture perfect as someone else’s. Why can’t I look that effortlessly good in my outfit photos? How did she get her eyeliner so damn perfect? And it’s not even my own damaging thoughts regarding my appearance. Jet-setters; seeing a constant stream of aeroplane windows, beaches and bikinis. All nicely finished with a glossy filter. It’s scary how easy it can be to get caught up in it and how quickly it can happen without us noticing.

It’s times like this that social media can be my own worst enemy. It can leave me feeling unfulfilled, leaving me feeling not good enough… not pretty enough… not photogenic enough, the list is endless. I feel as if I’m forever comparing my Instagram theme, overall look and content with another blogger’s. Forever wondering if my tweets are boring and dull. Forever thinking that I should probably update my Insta-stories more because it seems everyone else does.

Caught Up In Social Media SimplyAbbi
Caught Up In Social Media SimplyAbbi

For me, it’s time to draw that line and remember my own self and my own content. Learning that I can support and admire someone else’s online world without needing to compare it to mine. I adore seeing travel photos and #OOTDS, I just don’t need to live within them. I can acknowledge that no matter how perfect it looks, a person’s life is so much more than a digital square.

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There are moments in life that don’t need or require a double-tapped like. There are moments in life that can just be without having a re-tweet and as fun as Boomerang is, I don’t need to utilise it every second just to try and keep up with everyone else.  Our social medias are the one thing we can truly control; we can control what people see and what people know and it doesn’t need to be absolute, you can be in love with every second of your life and not need to put a filter on every one of those seconds.

Our social medias are the one thing we can truly control; we can control what people see and what people know and it doesn’t need to be absolute, you can be in love with every second of your life and not need to put a filter on every one of those seconds. You can be sad and lonely and choose not to show it. It’s in your hands and whatever you choose it ok.

It’s just always important to remember that behind every Instagram and every Tweet, there is a ‘behind the scenes’, there’s a human who may also be comparing themselves too or maybe even struggling to find their place in this digital world.

I’ll be perfectly honest and admit I have no idea where I was going with this post and that it wasn’t planned and doesn’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. I don’t know this posts purpose, but if it means that even one person is reminded that there is life beyond digital pixels, then I’ve done alright. Social media is incredibly powerful, just don’t let it power over you. And hey, these outfit photos? I haven’t posted them… but you can guarantee that there is a bunch of non-flattering, ‘hair in my face’, ‘body parts in weird positions’ sitting in my trash. I promise.

I’d certainly love to read your thoughts on this too, so if you have any, please do leave them below!

 

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  • missgetaway

    Beautiful post. I know exactly what you’re talking about. I sometimes get so hella caught up with social media that I just need to take one or two days off in order to recharge.

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • Thank you so much for reading Kerstin! Definitely taking days away is a good idea and reminds me that social media isn’t as important as I think xx

  • Jessica Keynes

    I too sometimes just take a weekend off and just enjoy the day with my husband, rather than sharing every moment with the world! It’s exhausting and I think can devalue special memories. Great post – also love your blog design!

    http://www.thatsjustspiffy.com

    • Yep, sometime there is nothing better than a digital detox and not feeling like I have to post ‘everything’! Thank you so much for reading & for your kind comments Jessica! xx

  • Loved reading this! I constantly have to remind myself that people on Instagram are just normal people who often like to highlight the good, and sometimes, extravagant parts of their lives and that’s okay. Everyone in life has something to be grateful for, and it’s important not to get caught up in comparing our blessings to others, but to simply appreciate them for what they are. 🙂

    http://www.madisontaylor.co

    • Thank you so much for reading Madison! Yes this is SO true! After all, why would we want to show ALL the bad stuff or the not-so-filtered parts of our lives! xx

  • Kimberly Hsieh

    A weekend free from social media is a must once in a while, kind of like a detox! Everyone on social media is still human, it’s just how we decide to show ourselves on social media.
    xo, http://www.lovekimber.com

    • I completely agree, I love a good digital detox – it’s so good for the mind! Thank you so much for reading Kimberly xx

  • I must admit that I don’t get too caught up in social media but having a chronic illness gives me a different perspective on things. I really enjoyed this post, Abbi xx

    Beautylymin

    • That’s completely understandable! I find myself feeling annoyed when I get all caught up in it all & it’s just so important to realise what’s truly important in the world! Thank you so much for reading and commenting lovely! xx

  • Ms Tantrum

    I really loved the post Abbi. Its not easy to keep up with Social Media but I feel it takes up most of ur time too. Just started following u on Bloglovin.

    Ash | http://www.mstantrum.com
    Instagram | ms_tantrum

    • Thank you SO much Ash! Thank you for following xx

  • Shannon

    I totally agree with this post and getting caught up in social media, we need to take breaks from it from time to time otherwise we get so annoyed and frustrated! I have just found your blog and love everything about it.

    Just a quick question, how do you get the coloured content boxes in your posts? I’ve been trying to find how to do that for ages!

    Shannon
    http://www.shanylou.co.uk

    • Thank you so much for reading Shannon! It’s definitely so beneficial and important to take breaks! Also, regarding the boxes, they are just HTML text boxes with a coloured background property ☺️ xx

      • Shannon

        You’re welcome 🙂
        Awh awesome, do you know what the coding is? I can’t find it anywhere aha xx

  • Sarah Dean

    Love this! It’s so true that social media can be just as deceiving as glossy magazines lives sometimes. I have nothing against being choosy about what you show, touching up or filtering pics as we all want to put our “best selves” out there; people just need to remember that this usually isn’t the “whole” picture.

    On an unrelated note… I love your necklace! Can I ask where it’s from? 🙂

    Sarah
    http://www.morethangreens.com

  • Kaylyn Van As

    So, so true, and although I know I am not the only person who feels this way it almost feels as if I am. Social media is such a lonely place, I’ve realized. But hey, some good can come out of it! Thank you for writing this and sharing it with the world <3 http://lovekaylyn.co.za