(Things that keep me positive and happy and yes Harry Styles appears more than once..)
““We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
– Abraham Lincoln
People have regularly said to me that I’m really quite negative and occasionally put a downer on things. People may see that harsh, but to be honest, I couldn’t agree with them more. The sad fact is, I am a natural worrier. I’m incredibly anxious about everything and ‘laid back’ is never, ever a phrase to describe me. Am I jealous of people who are laid-back and carefree? Yes. I just can’t let go, my stress levels are alway sky high and this just ends up leaving me exhausted and drained. All. Of. The. Time. It’s not fun and believe me, I rarely see the fun side of things. I worry too much about what other people are doing and feel like everything has got to be planned, organised and if it doesn’t follow that plan exact… god, you’re in trouble then. Do I sound like a miserable old lady to you? Yup!
I was thinking about this the other day, it was about 3 in the afternoon and I was in bed, still in my PJ’s, still wearing last nights makeup and scrolling through tumblr. I literally spent all day doing that. It simply made me realise that I am just a completely negative person and don’t have the most positive of attitudes ever. And that… well that made me feel crap. In that moment I decided I need to change my outlook on life, see the good more and just accept the bad and move on. Don’t get me wrong, I know that I will probably never be able to change the fact that I’m a worrier completely and of course I know that it won’t happen over night but quite frankly, it does need to happen. You are the source of your own happiness and you have the power to change how you think and feel.
Negative thoughts drain you of energy (literally) and they can literally stop you from being in the present time. They grow and grow till they become a big fat ball of ugliness that you can no longer control. You’re almost trapped. But, flip side, a positive thought can grow and grow and blossom into a beautiful thing. Which sounds better? I’ve been doing a bit of research and here are just some ideas I’m considering and doing into changing my thought pattern.
Start Yoga or Meditation //
Yoga has been recommended to me many times by friends, family and even my doctor. We all know it’s very beneficial physically, it opens up the body, helps with posture and it’s something to do to keep a little bit fit. But it really is a calming work out on your mind. I’ve never done it personally, but it’s now definitely something I’m considering, I’ve heard nothing but good things about it and anything to calm down and de-stress is considered a winner to me. Let me know if you’ve tried yoga!
Keeping a diary //
I’m not very good at all at keeping a diary (who needs a diary when you have a blog, duuh) but when I was looking online, several websites/blogs suggested that keeping a diary is actually a rather jolly good idea because it’s as if you’re letting everything go. To me personally, I can see the plus side; I’m awful at dealing with my feelings, awful. I literally let them build up and struggle talking about them so maybe trying to write them down will make me feel better, I don’t know, but I feel it’s worth a try. I also thought maybe writing down your negative thoughts and then writing down the positive flip side would be productive as well, y’know, magically transforming your thoughts and all.
Don’t play the victim //
I’ve never really considered myself a victim of life and I’ve not really been the type to feel sorry for myself but, (yes, there was a but) I do tend to just not do anything about the bad situations in life and sit around waiting for them to solve themselves. It’s time I started realising that I am the solution to most things and it’s my damn job to fix them. Oooh, how empowering of me!
Help people //
Now this is something I rarely do, sounds terrible, doesn’t it? But think of the last time you helped someone; for some people, it’s probably a regular occurrence, for others, you’ll be like me and can’t pinpoint a moment you took time out of your day to help someone in need for no other reason than to make them happy? The other day we had a carnival fun day at work, there was a little children’s play area set up and the staff members who were occupying it weren’t there for a while, there was a young boy struggling to reach a toy thing that you slot massive coins into.. (think of a giant connect four), so I went over and helped him by helping him reach the slot and just playing along with him considering no one else would. Did I need to help him? Nope. Was he happy I did? Probably. He had a smile on his face and that was enough for me!
Remember there’s good and bad days //
After all, we are only human. Simple and plain as that. We’re not always going to be happy and life isn’t always going to be good. We can’t always control our thoughts and sometimes negativity will get the better of us, but do you know what? That’s ok. Accept it, cry about it, find something to laugh and smile about, move on and remember, you’re only human.
“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.”
– Joseph Cambell